Breaking Up With Kindness

June 30, 2026 00:02:35
Breaking Up With Kindness
Heart Banter/Music Covers & Acoustic Guitar
Breaking Up With Kindness

Jun 30 2026 | 00:02:35

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The ending of a love relationship is often painful and dramatic. In “Hey, That’s No Way to Say Goodbye,” Leonard Cohen has penned a poetic plea for a graceful, respectful breakup that honors the beauty of a dying connection, rather than dwelling on the pain, anger, and lingering regret of the ending.

Cohen wrote the song in 1966 on a decrepit bed in the Penn Terminal Hotel in Midtown Manhattan. In 1967, Judy Collins, who became Cohen’s good friend, recorded the song for her album  Wildflowers. The following month, Cohen’s own version was released on his debut album, Songs of Leonard Cohen.

Cohen described the song as “a moment of clarity in the middle of a love affair’s end.” He also explained, “It’s about acknowledging that love changes but doesn’t truly die. The bodies may part, but the connection remains in the light and the words left behind.”

While introducing “Hey, That’s No Way to Say Goodbye” during his 1976 Live at Montreux performance, Cohen memorably said: “As you eastern metaphysicians know, just as from the darkest mud blooms the whitest lotus, so from the brownest hotel room you occasionally get a good song.”

Playing heartfelt, beautiful songs like this one juices me up. Enjoy this cover version.

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[00:00:07] I loved you in the morning our kisses deep and warm Your hair upon the pillow. [00:00:18] Like a sleepy golden storm. [00:00:21] Yes, many love before us. I know that we are not new in the city. And before us they smiled like me and you. [00:00:35] But now it's calm to distances and both of us must try. [00:00:42] Your eyes are soft with sorrow. [00:00:46] Hey, that's no way to say goodbye. [00:00:58] I'm not looking for another. [00:01:01] As I wander in my walk me to the corner. [00:01:08] My steps will always rhyme. [00:01:12] You know my love goes with you as your love stays with me. [00:01:18] It's just like the shoreline and the sea. [00:01:25] But let's not talk of love or chains and things we can't untie. [00:01:32] Your eyes are soft with sorrow. [00:01:35] Oh hey, that's no way to say goodbye. [00:01:47] Love you in the morning, our kisses deep and warm Your hair upon the pillow. Like a sleepy golden storm. [00:02:00] Yes, many love before us. I know that we are not new and enforce. They smile like me and you. [00:02:13] But let's not talk of love or chains and things we can't untie. [00:02:20] Your eyes us up with sorrow. [00:02:24] Hey, that's no way to say goodbye.

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